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How do I overcome this?

I am 23 years old this year and I’ve never had a romantic relationship. I always want to feel loved by someone when seeing my friends hang out with their lovers and act lovey dovey. And I wonder how it feels to fall in love.I have dark childhood memories where my parents got divorced just right after I born so I never got attention and love from someone who I could call father. He sometimes visited us twice a year and my mother end up raising me and 3 other siblings alone. Watching my mother raising us as a single mother really made me think that we really don’t need a man in the house.When I got older, when someone showed their interest in me, I have zero confidence towards them. And I always think that they just come in my life to make my life harder just like what…

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Made a mess and I don’t know how to clean things up!

In grade 10, I went through a tough break up with a guy who was 9 years older to me and was a teacher of mine for 2 months during the summer; in arts. I was in a relationship with him for 2 years in secret with only a few people knowing. We’ve been through quite a deal of events together and it surprised me that we actually lasted for those 2 years. There’s nothing we really haven’t done together apart from soaking ourselves together in the bath tub.We had a pretty strong bond, though sometimes he would reminisce about his ex-girlfriend the entire relationship, who I stole him from. In fact, she had no idea who I was. But I had my flaws too when I cheated on him with his relative one evening, just so I had a strong reason to dump him and don’t come running back…

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Do I follow my heart even though I know what’s right?

I met her my freshman year in college a week before school started during orientation. She was out of my league & she had a bf but I still agreed to be down with her. I wanted her to myself & I couldn’t just say that like that I thought shed laugh at me & call it off got with another girl to make her jealous & it worked & i had her all to myself.It was good but then I found these messages & I just felt crushed. So I started back talking to the girl & then just made everything worse. I didn’t love this girl she was just a decoy to get the girl I really wanted but I was so afraid that the girl I wanted would just leave me so I kept her around & that’s where I messed up at.I didn’t believe in myself.…

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She doesn’t need to be afraid anymore

I love a girl who is severely afraid of love, or maybe commitment, or both. I have known her since our younger days…not that we’re old, so I think in a way it gives us a little extra in the connection department.We have spent time with one another, gotten physical (sex), and can talk to each other for days about anything! The time we do spend together is amazing and the world doesn’t matter. She’s all I think about, we have talked about kids and marriage, we both know we want it but I feel like no matter what I do sometimes she just pushes me away.Our marriage talk will quickly turn to her telling me to “find someone better” and I feel shitty. I try and remember she doesn’t mean it and maybe I say the wrong things, or don’t support her as she wishes.However I am affectionate and…

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Love and body weight

Sorry that I am not a English native speaker. I am 25 years old and I haven’t even dated a single guy.I don’t have any confidence about my body coz I am a little bit chubby. But beyond that I truly believe that I cannot build a good relationship with my bf. I can’t let anyone to come into my life. I pretend that I didn’t not know their approach to me. But I know that I strongly want a perfect relationship with my bf and stay happily with this relationship.What am I supposed to do now? Gaining weight is related with my problem? If it’s so I really need a good curves feminine body.

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