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Love of My Life

I am so incredibly in love with the most gorgeous, talented, funny, kind, compassionate, wonderful man. We have spent the last 2 1/2 years together, always hand-in-hand, always laughing and holding one another. Things have not always been perfect, but what relationship really is?Several days ago, my boyfriend told me that we needed to break up. I knew that he had been feeling off for some time, but we always tried to look for other things to blame his negative feelings toward our relationship on. I have been his first serious relationship, and I have done nothing for the last 2 1/2 years but love and support him, trying to do anything and everything I could to help him through the issues that kept reoccurring between us.For the entirety of our relationship, he has had periods of extreme anxiety, where he says he doesn’t know if he loves me or…

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I’ve been married to a Philophobic for over 15 years…

I have over 15 years experience being married to a Philophobic. It has been brutal at best. If it weren’t for my love for her and our child we would have ended this long ago. (she’s always been ready for the end, and had no trouble saying so)When we first started dating she was going through a nasty divorce. I didn’t know it at the time, but when he left her, she had a nervous breakdown and started going out and sleeping around to try to ease the pain, her nine year old daughter pretty much helped her pick herself back up and get herself together. Besides a rough childhood I believe that is what kicked in the Philo mode. A few years later her mother passed away, my wife didn’t shed a tear, although she loved her mother dearly. My wife handled it like a robot. Throughout our marriage…

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Is there really such a thing as philophobia

Only last week my best friend accused me of being afraid of falling in love, when my friend, whom I had a great connection with was moving to China. To her this was not the first time I didn’t give a good guy a chance hence the only explanation for my behaviour has to be that I’m philophobic! To me this seems outrageous, I’m not afraid but I guess I’m holding out for something special. For a guy who can love me today and always, not the one who idolises me or whose only using me. Guess I’m guarding myself from the bad luck of love that has fallen upon my family- mum separated for 20yrs and to top it up moved me to the other end of the world from my father. Her three sisters either divorced or in a sad denial of being in a ‘good’ marriage- one…

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Thanks

I’m not going to lie, I’m in no way philophobic, in fact, the complete opposite, and I’m hopelessly searching for the right one, but reading these stories is making me understand and relate much more to my own past. The last two girls I dated have both either told me similar stories to these, or been told to me about them by other people.Until now I thought I wasn’t good enough for anyone, and that both of those relationships failed because there was something wrong with me, but I’m starting to realize there’s just people out there that aren’t as comfortable with the idea of real love than I am, and that’s ok, I just have to find the one that isn’t.

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Help

Hi everyone reading this,As the title says I need help. There’s a girl that I know for about 3-4 months now. Well she has philophobia… And it hurts me everytime I think about it. She really doesn’t know what to do.I’ve met this girl on the internet and she lives 20 minutes from me (with my bike). It was fate that I had found her I guess. I had found her in a group chat on MSN. The first time I added her we started talking for about an hour. The next few days we started to talk more and more, until one of us fell asleep. I really was addicted to her. So I said that I liked her…She didn’t know what to say, a few minutes later she replied that she liked me to. We fell in love, I love a girl that I’ve never met, only chatting…

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