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I am 15 years old. I believe i have Philophobia. Everytime i THOUGHT i liked a guy and he got anywhere near me, i freaked out and wanted to run away instantly. One time my best friend asked me out…he was a guy of course. And he couldnt even get a word out because i knew he was gunna ask me. What i yelled was “NO!” in the middle of the lunch room. I dont understand WHY i said no, i just was absolutely terrified of the idea of dating a guy. One time he grabed my hand and i jerked away…does this make me a bad person? Or am i really Philophobic?


  1. AngelBeats! AngelBeats!

    Hey! It’s really cool to know someone who is also 15 and a Philophobic too. I’m also going through something like you right now. Every guy that asked me out I said NO when I really wanted to try, but I was scared. I admit I’m a philophobic. I’m trying my best to open up to this guy who has been persistent on getting me and he’s still after me for 1 year and 3 months so I’ll support you to do what you can. You should have some strong points to you right?

    • Ada Ada

      Hello! I’m so glad to know someone else who is 15 years old. My situation is something like you but in my case I think that It came from the trauma that I’ve experienced before (too often actually) but I really want to try to be in a relationship, to fall in love or not. But when I think of love I’m terrified of the idea of what might happen. I also don’t know if I am philophobic or I am just a bad person (I refuse all the people who confess to me).

      • Alysha Alysha

        It’s nice ur 15 too. I’m also philophobic. At first I did date and I was always left heartbroken. Later my parents separated and it was unbearable. After seeing my family member all get divorced, I became afraid loving someone. People are always asking me out and I always panic and change the subject or run away. Sometimes I feel like I won’t ever love anyone because of all the traumas I’ve had. Also I really love my dad and my stepmom and they died. I decided to never love anyone. Although it hurts whatching everyone happy but me

  2. Anonymous Anonymous

    I am 13. My parents relationship has been sour for 11 years. I really am terrified. I cover my emotions with humor. But my mind is always racing to the worst possible conclusions. I’m so scared. It’s hurting grades and everything.

    • Anonymous Anonymous

      The same I happening to me to. My parents are divorced and when I failed a really important test in school because I was having a panic attack (I had just found out my friend has a crush on me)

  3. Anonymous Anonymous

    Hey y’all. I’m 22 yo now but the same was happening to me since I was in 6th grade of elementary school when I was asked to going out w/ a guy. I said no by a letter (my way to running away lol) and he contact me after 2 years said that he became playboy because I rejected him. After that I found my father cheated on my mom and my symptom of philophobia was getting stronger. Even my parent had resolved their problem and getting well til now, I couldn’t cure this disease lol.
    I even had an experience to be forgoten by my own bestfriend twice. That make me think that I do not fit with some fuc*ing deep relationship called couple or even bestfriend lol. Same question here, am I a bad person?

  4. Anonymous Anonymous

    I’ve discoverd that I feel anxious every time i
    i have a crush on someone, or i heard that someone likes me. I started imagining things like what if i marry this guy, that would be an interfaith marriage, and my parents would be mad. But then, i really like this guy. And so, I made these scenarios inside my head, just to think of what would happen if i do this or that. It really scares me, what if just because of unsupported interfaith marriage, I can’t, at least, like a guy. I’m scared to fall in love, but I can’t help it. The feeling of falling in love is scary and wonderful at the same time. Is this philophobia? I just want to make sure

  5. Anonymous Anonymous

    You’re dedfinitely not a bad person, and you’re in a better spot than me. You at least recognize your fear early, which gives you a shot at working through it before it’s too late.

    I am a 27 y/o male. I have been on exactly 2 dates in my whole life. Both because of 3rd party intervention. I’m too scared to ever admit to women that I like them, or to even ask them out as friends. I can talk to them OK, but avoid any and all conversations about personal relationships, whether or not they’re someone I like.

  6. I think I have philophobia too. I’m fifteen now and I’ve only known of two people that had a crush on me and both times I would go home everyday and cry. The first time I would have to go to the bathroom bc I kept trying to throw up. Idk why I have it, the first time this happened to me I was in 5th grade, and that was before I developed anxiety. My family has always had a very healthy relationship and I’ve never been in a situation where I could be hurt, heck, I’ve never been in a romantic relationship. If someone could tell me why I have this I’d greatly appreciate it.

  7. Anonymous Anonymous

    Hi . I’m 17 and i’ve never had a relationship or my first kiss The ideea is that i don’t really feel comfortable in my body cause all my life i was skinny and it’s hard to believe : how someone can like you if you can’t like yourself?
    At first i thought i’m asexual, but now i really think about having philophobia..i really don’t know what to think.I am afraid of not being good enough. I also have a really good friend who is more beautiful than me and most of my time i stay with her. I liked a girl who liked my bfriend ,and the same story with a guy. I am trying to “erase ” my feelings everytime i like someone ( rarely happening) cause i’m sure they don’t like me back and i’m trying to make it “less painful”. And…that’s it ,i’m not really sure if it’s something wrong with me :))) sorry if i made gramatical mistakes ,english isn’t my first language.

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