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I am 15 years old. I believe i have Philophobia. Everytime i THOUGHT i liked a guy and he got anywhere near me, i freaked out and wanted to run away instantly. One time my best friend asked me out…he was a guy of course. And he couldnt even get a word out because i knew he was gunna ask me. What i yelled was “NO!” in the middle of the lunch room. I dont understand WHY i said no, i just was absolutely terrified of the idea of dating a guy. One time he grabed my hand and i jerked away…does this make me a bad person? Or am i really Philophobic?

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  1. AngelBeats! AngelBeats!

    Hey! It’s really cool to know someone who is also 15 and a Philophobic too. I’m also going through something like you right now. Every guy that asked me out I said NO when I really wanted to try, but I was scared. I admit I’m a philophobic. I’m trying my best to open up to this guy who has been persistent on getting me and he’s still after me for 1 year and 3 months so I’ll support you to do what you can. You should have some strong points to you right?

    • Ada Ada

      Hello! I’m so glad to know someone else who is 15 years old. My situation is something like you but in my case I think that It came from the trauma that I’ve experienced before (too often actually) but I really want to try to be in a relationship, to fall in love or not. But when I think of love I’m terrified of the idea of what might happen. I also don’t know if I am philophobic or I am just a bad person (I refuse all the people who confess to me).

      • Alysha Alysha

        It’s nice ur 15 too. I’m also philophobic. At first I did date and I was always left heartbroken. Later my parents separated and it was unbearable. After seeing my family member all get divorced, I became afraid loving someone. People are always asking me out and I always panic and change the subject or run away. Sometimes I feel like I won’t ever love anyone because of all the traumas I’ve had. Also I really love my dad and my stepmom and they died. I decided to never love anyone. Although it hurts whatching everyone happy but me

  2. Anonymous Anonymous

    I am 13. My parents relationship has been sour for 11 years. I really am terrified. I cover my emotions with humor. But my mind is always racing to the worst possible conclusions. I’m so scared. It’s hurting grades and everything.

    • Anonymous Anonymous

      The same I happening to me to. My parents are divorced and when I failed a really important test in school because I was having a panic attack (I had just found out my friend has a crush on me)

  3. Anonymous Anonymous

    Hey y’all. I’m 22 yo now but the same was happening to me since I was in 6th grade of elementary school when I was asked to going out w/ a guy. I said no by a letter (my way to running away lol) and he contact me after 2 years said that he became playboy because I rejected him. After that I found my father cheated on my mom and my symptom of philophobia was getting stronger. Even my parent had resolved their problem and getting well til now, I couldn’t cure this disease lol.
    I even had an experience to be forgoten by my own bestfriend twice. That make me think that I do not fit with some fuc*ing deep relationship called couple or even bestfriend lol. Same question here, am I a bad person?

  4. Anonymous Anonymous

    I’ve discoverd that I feel anxious every time i
    i have a crush on someone, or i heard that someone likes me. I started imagining things like what if i marry this guy, that would be an interfaith marriage, and my parents would be mad. But then, i really like this guy. And so, I made these scenarios inside my head, just to think of what would happen if i do this or that. It really scares me, what if just because of unsupported interfaith marriage, I can’t, at least, like a guy. I’m scared to fall in love, but I can’t help it. The feeling of falling in love is scary and wonderful at the same time. Is this philophobia? I just want to make sure

  5. Anonymous Anonymous

    You’re dedfinitely not a bad person, and you’re in a better spot than me. You at least recognize your fear early, which gives you a shot at working through it before it’s too late.

    I am a 27 y/o male. I have been on exactly 2 dates in my whole life. Both because of 3rd party intervention. I’m too scared to ever admit to women that I like them, or to even ask them out as friends. I can talk to them OK, but avoid any and all conversations about personal relationships, whether or not they’re someone I like.

  6. I think I have philophobia too. I’m fifteen now and I’ve only known of two people that had a crush on me and both times I would go home everyday and cry. The first time I would have to go to the bathroom bc I kept trying to throw up. Idk why I have it, the first time this happened to me I was in 5th grade, and that was before I developed anxiety. My family has always had a very healthy relationship and I’ve never been in a situation where I could be hurt, heck, I’ve never been in a romantic relationship. If someone could tell me why I have this I’d greatly appreciate it.

  7. Anonymous Anonymous

    Hi . I’m 17 and i’ve never had a relationship or my first kiss The ideea is that i don’t really feel comfortable in my body cause all my life i was skinny and it’s hard to believe : how someone can like you if you can’t like yourself?
    At first i thought i’m asexual, but now i really think about having philophobia..i really don’t know what to think.I am afraid of not being good enough. I also have a really good friend who is more beautiful than me and most of my time i stay with her. I liked a girl who liked my bfriend ,and the same story with a guy. I am trying to “erase ” my feelings everytime i like someone ( rarely happening) cause i’m sure they don’t like me back and i’m trying to make it “less painful”. And…that’s it ,i’m not really sure if it’s something wrong with me :))) sorry if i made gramatical mistakes ,english isn’t my first language.

    • Anonymous Anonymous

      We are same then.. it’s hurting

  8. kiki kiki

    Been like this since 13 now I’m 17(female)..I just don’t know why people have to get married or like why be in relationship..it just so stressful to talk to someone about how you really feel and sharing isn’t that easy…I’m not from a broken home or anything but I’ve had more than 1 sour or bitter friendships….where it even lead to the death of the other person….I’m not heartbroken either its just that…I’m philophobic and I don’t think there’s anyone who could change that. Whenever people talk about love or relationships I walk out of the room or put my head down on my desk and take a nap.
    Now days when people ask me “Oh what are you doing after getting a job aren’t you going to get married ?” I’ll answer them with a very nice answer “I want an apartment with a sea side window, a VR gaming station and PlayStation to accompany me…and moreover I tell them about my dreams and tell them to STOP talking or go somewhere else -_- like wth……
    So what if your philophobic, you just gotta live your life gal.

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