There’s someone who’s liked me for almost two years and I’ve never given him a chance romantically, though we’re friends. We go out for lunch quite a bit, but I never let anything even slightly romantic happen. Everyone knows he likes me but none of my friends understand why I can’t do anything about it.
It’s not that I don’t like him, it’s that any time I think about us as a couple, I get nauseous, agitated, and feel like I’m about to have a panic attack. One of my friends tried to sit us down to talk about things and I just shut down and left; I couldn’t handle it. Knowing that I’m not alone is so liberating. I just want to know how to deal with this because I think I really do like him, and I’m paralyzed.